The approach to counseling described herein is “cognitive/emotive;” with the cognitive part based on Bible Truth. The Truth of the Bible is for everyone, child or adult, troubled or not, however, this web-site contains a special library of stories and lessons designed to help children, ages 8 through 11, who are troubled in spirit and soul. The spirit, as I understand it, is the part of us that can relate to God, and the soul is the part that can relate to other intelligent creatures. The body part, with five senses, relates to the physical environment. A problem in one part can bother the other two. Not everyone agrees to this three-part view. Some see man as two-part, body/soul.
The causes of trouble in children can be multiple and various. Accurate diagnosis is rarely simple. Parents and caregivers seeking help may encounter several different opinions from professionals or ministers as to cause and treatment. It can get confusing, as perhaps you already know.
The question of the moment is: Will the stories and studies herein help your particular child with her/his particular spirit/soul trouble?
The Bible alludes to two types of children; the child “with foolishness bound up in his heart,” and the “provoked to anger child.” To put it briefly, I routinely assume that any troubled (soul/spirit) child is in the “provoked to anger” category. Anger internalized and unresolved produces recognizable symptoms that you have probably studied about. This assumption has guided the writing of the stories and studies included here..
The Bible concepts that I find powerful for treatment of the “provoked to anger” child are the grace covenant concepts; i.e. faith-based relationship with God vs. performance-based relationship. The difficulty lies in the fact that these concepts are abstract, and the child ages 8-11 is not yet proficient in abstract thought. So, I have written stories and Bible studies that help her/his understanding.
Will an increase in your child’s understanding of the cross of Christ help? Yes.
What’s the catch? It has to do with your own understanding of the cross of Christ. If you understand the “grace” of it, its likely you will be able to help your child to also understand. The stories are a tool to help you teach grace concepts to your child. The result of renewing the mind is transformation of life (Romans 12:2).
Without going into it deeply, a child learns things and adds them into her/his belief system, or programing. Their on-going evaluations of God, themselves, others, and circumstances is guided by this belief system. If it contains a lot of negatives, then the child is going to experience a lot of negative emotions and behaviors. Not all negative emotions and behaviors are caused by negative evaluation, but many, perhaps the large majority, are. Some have roots in biological upset (body things spilling over into the soul/spirit).
So, resolution of lots of negative emotion and behavior can be realized through learning to evaluate God, self, others, and circumstances, based on accurate information. The Bible, in my opinion, is a reliable source of accurate information, particularly if one is trying to understand about why they feel the way they feel, and why they do the things they do.
This is the basis for this library of stories and studies. I hope for fundamental change in the child’s evaluation of God, self, others, and circumstances. Jesus Christ told some people, a long time ago, “Take My yoke upon you, learn of me, My yoke is easy, and My burden is light, and you will find rest for your souls.” Can learning result in rest for the soul?
Not everyone has the same brain chemistry and level of function, but everyone can benefit from “rest for the soul.” It depends on what is learned, and also on choosing pretty often to use that learning in making evaluations.